These days February is all about hearts, flowers, and romance which is great if you are in love and appreciate those things. However, those of us with whom the V-Day scene does not resonate can feel a little left out or even down right depressed. If you are part of the latter group I encourage you to embrace the love theme in a new way.

Love is much more vast and all-encompassing than just the love between partners. It exists in all kinds of relationships such as those between parent and child, extended family members, friends and even with pets. Try taking a Kindergarteners all-inclusive approach to Valentine’s Day; celebrate and show your love for any and everyone who matters in your life.  


Sharing love is a beautiful and natural human condition. However, by far the most important love we can possess and express is the love we give to ourselves. Somewhere along the way our personal happiness and self-worth became something we sourced from outside rather than something we access from within. Take this month to focus on nurturing and loving yourself.

Not sure where to begin? Below are 10 ideas to get you started.

1.       Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. Adding beauty and natural fragrance creates instant happiness in your space.

   2.       Treat yourself to a favorite dessert or a nice wine. Indulging in a decadent food/drink pleasure can be incredibly satisfying and when you make it        more special with fine china and crystal you are giving yourself the treatment you deserve.


3.       Get a massage. Human touch is extremely important to your health and happiness plus your body will thank you.

4.       Dance and sing to your favorite songs. This gets your blood flowing, your endorphins jumping and gives your emotions an outlet. It’s important to be silly, play and have fun and age has absolutely nothing to do with anything!

5.       Write yourself a love letter. Don’t laugh! We tend to use self-deprecation in an attempt to be humble. However, this self-critical approach doesn’t buy you anything and actually causes real damage to your self-worth and self-esteem. Build it back up by writing down 10 things you like about yourself and keep it handy for when you are feeling down.

6.       Read a feel-good book. Pick something that inspires you or speaks to your soul.

7.       Try something new. Pushing beyond your boundaries invites growth. Even if you don’t succeed or it doesn’t turn out to be everything you expected, the experience and knowledge that you tried will be rewarding.

8.       Take a digital vacation. Do yourself a huge favor by taking a break from social media and putting your phone away. Check back into life, have face to face conversations and meals, and savor real moments with living breathing people.  

9.       Give yourself permission to do nothing. Staying busy does not necessarily equal accomplishment. Oftentimes staying busy is a way to deflect and distract you from things that actually need your attention. When your body is at rest you give mind and emotions time for self-reflection and self-discovery.

10.   Focus on you. If you have other people in your life, especially if you are a parent, you are most likely not at the top of your priority list. We’ve been taught to believe that this “selfless” act is noble and makes you a good person. However, I firmly believe that if you don’t make yourself a priority eventually your energy, patience, and love will be depleted. If you don’t think you are worth the time and effort how can you expect others to? Take some time to do what you love to do, make sure your environment includes your loves and passions, and schedule days where you don’t have to sacrifice yourself or your needs.

Do you have some favorite self-love practices? Comment below to share your ideas and thoughts.